What Do You Know To Be True?
As founders, leaders, and creatives, it is natural for us to seek out more.
A burning desire for growth and greatness is somehow wired into our entrepreneurial DNA.
Where things get sticky is when our desire for expansion gets stuck in 5th gear – and with our hands gripping the wheel and eyes locked on our target – we go full-force towards the thing we decided is the place we must arrive to in order to ascend to the next level.
Welcome to the danger zone.
There is nothing more energetically dangerous than a driven deep-feeler who is in this transformational trance.
Why?
Because there is no space here for anything except expectations.
We know there is no space when:
Our brain and body feel like they’re on fire.
We obsess about getting away from this place/moment/situation.
All our thoughts are about getting towards our chosen target.
We feel absolutely certain that once we get there, we won’t feel this way any longer.
We fantasize about the fulfillment and freedom that will come once we cross the finish line.
Can you see how there’s no space here for anything else except this one story?
This past week I noticed this theme with my clients.
These brilliant, aware, driven, and accomplished folks felt very clear that if they just could “figure this out” and “really focus and be disciplined,” they’d get to the exact place they wanted to go, and when they got THERE – everything would be set right!
Danger-fucking-zone.
I wanted to ask questions that would allow them to step out of this trance that was created from a toxic mix of fear, old stories, and a need to not feel their big true feelings.
QUESTION #1: Is it possible that if you were to follow this very specific plan, you’d miss out on something even greater?
This question instantly opens thinking and settles the nervous system.
Suddenly there’s SPACE.
Once we have some space from our rigid thoughts and expectations, the body settles. As the body continues to settle, we have access to more possibilities and options.
From a place of possibility…
QUESTION #2: What are the big feelings that sit at the bottom of this desire?
Jackpot.
Everything you need to know about personal transformation is in this question.
Your terror and unwillingness to not look in the most obvious place for all the wisdom you will ever need is what is keeping you from getting to where you want to go with ease.
Will it be easy + comfortable to feel big feelings? Fuck no!
But until you acknowledge your big feelings, you will stay stuck + confused.
There’s no way to get around them. So save yourself the time and courageously bring that shit into the light NOW.
The sooner you feel your big feelings, the sooner you will heal.
True healing is the only way to achieve epic personal transformation and massive professional success.
Because I love you (and am so glad you are here), I’m going to share with you my favorite question that always helps me when my big feelings are being little assholes I want to punch in the face…
QUESTION #3: What do I know to be true?
When you’re drowning in your big feelings and feel like you can’t breathe, ask yourself, “What do I know to be true”?
This grounding question offers us space when we are smothered in big feelings.
Space + Big feelings = Where the MAGIC lives.
Only when we have access to both space and our big feelings can we step out of our trance and into a bigger and more beautiful life than we could ever have imagined.
You're exactly where you need to be, and you're doing a really good job.
💜 AP